Kepuasan Perkawinan Ditinjau dari Kebersyukuran dan Pemaafan pada Pasangan Bekerja
DOI:
https://doi.org/10.21776/ub.mps.2017.003.02.2Keywords:
kebersyukuran, pemaafan, kepuasan pernikahanAbstract
This study aims to identify marital satisfaction among married, working individuals in relation with the aspect of gratitude and forgiveness. This study was conducted by using survey methods through questionnaires. The samples of this study were 226 married, working individuals (140 males and 86 females) and were working for Islamic University of Riau (UIR), Indonesia. The instruments for this study were the adaptation of The Gratitude Questionnaire-Six Item Form (GQ-6) for the aspect of gratitude, Marital Forgiveness Scale (dispositional) for the aspect of forgiveness and ENRICH Marital Satisfaction Scale for the aspect of marital satisfaction. The result showed a significant correlation between gratitude, forgiveness, and maritl satisfaction. The statistical regression also found that forgiveness is the key contributor of marital satisfaction for married, working individual. In general, this study suggest that gratitude and forgiveness is an important aspect that contributes to marital satisfaction of married, working individuals.
Penelitian ini bertujuan untuk mengetahui kepuasan perkawinan pada pekerja yang telah menikah yang dilihat dari aspek kebersyukuran dan pemaafan. Penelitian ini dilakukan dengan metode survey menggunakan kuesioner. Sampel penelitian terdiri dari 226 orang yang telah menikah dan sedang bekerja (pria=140, wanita=86) di Universitas Islam Riau (UIR), Indonesia. Instrumen kajian adalah adaptasi dari The Gratitude Questionnaire-Six Item Form (GQ-6) untuk aspek kebersyukuran, Marital Forgiveness Scale (Dispositional) untuk aspek pemaafan, dan ENRICH Marital Satisfaction Scale untuk aspek kepuasan perkawinan. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa terdapat hubungan yang signifikan antara kebersyukuran, pemaafan, dan kepuasan perkawinan. Hasil uji regresi menunjukkan bahwa pengampunan merupakan aspek kunci pada pasangan suami istri yang memperoleh kepuasan perkawinan. Secara keseluruhan, penelitian ini menunjukkan bahwa kebersyukuran dan pemaafan merupakan aspek penting untuk memberi kontribusi pada kepuasan perkawinan terhadap individu bekerja yang telah menikah.
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